A lot of us go through loss in one way or another. It may be the loss of a family member, friend, pet etc. In other times this loss may not involve someone dying but losing someone to which they may no longer be in your life in the long run. This is the kind of losses that may involve relationships or friendships. Each of these kind of losses may hit us in different ways and depending on the person, it may take a while to heal and that is okay.
One thing that is important to remember for all of us is that there is not a time frame for healing.
Healing is different for everyone and everyone has their own way of coping with it. For some they may put all their attention into different activities like their jobs and others. For others they may turn to things like drugs and alcohol and others things that may not be necessary good for them but in times like that the only thing to really turn to is what feels right in the moment and what may be accessible. One thing that is important to realize especially when it comes to losing someone who is not physically dead is that there comes a point in time in our lives when some people have to come and go.
Some people come into our lives to help us become the person we are meant to be through the different experiences we go through with them. Even though it may not be easy to see this at the time we just have to trust that things will always work out and fall into place. The right people are meant to be in our lives forever and no matter what they will find ways to stay. There comes a time when it is okay to let go of the wrong people and ones that don't bring any type of value to our lives. When it comes to losing a person who is no longer with us that is harder and different.
Just the thought of the person no longer being here with us is not easy especially someone that was important to us. A good way is to reminisce on the memories with that person and see it as the person being in a different room but we aren't allowed to see them. It can also be seen as the person being at a better place now and being much happier now than they were. The person no longer has to go through the suffering and struggles of everyday life. Everyone handles loss different but it is important for us to let the people around us know what is going on if they don't because no one can go through it alone.
Even though everyone has their own way of dealing with it, we have to be okay asking for help and support. Everyone mourns differently and it is okay to let out emotions in a healthy way because letting it out is what helps some people move on. Losing someone is also a way to understand our own mortality. The stoic principle Memento Mori talks about our mortality and knowing that we are all going to go one day. No one is immune to this and we have to recognize that. Life is short and we never know when our time will come which makes it very important to live it to the fullest with no regrets.
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