I recently finished reading Unoffendable: The Art of Thriving In A World Full Of Jerks by Youtuber Einzelganger and I can say I learned a lot. I have been following this Youtuber for over 3 years now and I can honestly say he has made a big impact on my life. From his videos on Stoic philosophy, psychology and overall his love of wisdom, improvement, and the search of a life of meaning is something that draws me to his work. This is the second book I have read from him with the first one talking about the ancient philosophy of Stoicism. It really helped open my eyes to a lot of things.
Of course with the title of this book you can get a pretty good idea of what it is about but it goes into more concepts and we get a glimpse into the personal life of the author in a way we may not get on his channel. The book places a huge emphasis on not being offended by the actions of others and just finding ways to stay still and not react no matter how hard people try to bring one out of us. One example talks about someone pointing out something about us that may be true. If someone insults you on something about yourself and its true then what is the point of getting triggered by something that's true. As individuals we are to accept and embrace what is true about us and move on.
On the other hand if someone insults and says something about us that is not true, there is no point in getting angry or triggered by it. No matter what someone says or thinks about us, If we know it is not true then why bother caring or worrying about it. Just don't give it your attention and keep going. Another chapter in the book talks about how hard individuals try to be liked whether by their social groups, coworkers or just people they come across in order to fit in. For most people their life depends on being accepted by the people around them. He talks about a couple he worked with at a warehouse who were hated by most of the workers.
They didn't talk to anyone on the Workfloor and usually came to work, did their job and left. Even though they were not liked by other people, they had each other and stood by their own principles. They didn't compromise themselves to fit in and maintained their own image. We shouldn't worry about what people think or say about us because it is not in our control. The only person we should try to impress is ourselves and disregard the judgement of others. He also talks about the power of indifference. It is not paying attention or letting things get to us. Indifference is not caring and not giving people the response or reaction they want. Basically giving them silence which leads them to feel a sense of shame and eventually leave us alone.
Can't argue or start a fight with someone who is not even paying attention. Indifference should be practiced when dealing with people who have brought it upon themselves to make lives hard for us or bring drama into our lives. This stops us from giving our power away to others and it's a way to detach from negativity. I could go on all day about this book but check it out yourself if interested. I promise you won't be disappointed. Thank you to Einzelgänger for continuing to share his wisdom with us. I will link his Youtube page, website, and a link to buy the book for anyone interested.
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