One thing I have been saying a lot nowadays is I want less friends and honestly it is not based on something someone has done to me or anything but just that growing up you want to keep the right ones around you and I’m at that stage in my life. I have always been able to easily make friends and for most of my time in high school I had a lot of friends I had made all the way from intermediate school and our friend group had stayed in tact since then. Of course after high school the majority of us went our separate ways and are doing different things but we are usually able to check in on each other and just see how everyone is doing and what is going on in their lives.
In college I made a lot of friends my first year especially a friend group which did a lot of things together like going to parties, events and different activities but what’s crazy is by my third year I only talked to around 5 of those 20 people. I found nothing wrong with that because of course we evolved and grew in college and the things we did our first year and just how we were overall was different. Some of them were acting the same from their first couple years at college like partying all the time and getting drunk and for them there was no point in keeping them around. Of course with others there were things that happened that made a difference in our friendships and some could have been the fault of one person or the other but there’s honestly nothing wrong with that.
Things happen in life and I know they were things I could have done better on my end but at the end of the day it's life. We have to make decisions that benefit us and a lot of this deals with who we want or do not want around. There should be no hard feelings but it’s okay to forget them and move on because we’re moving in a different rhythm. And that is how I feel today. I want less friends due to just wanting the right people around and of course just having the right energies because sometimes there is no point in keeping contact with some people.
It’s about having the right people who bring value. It is important to be around people who uplift you and just ones you can be around to push each other for the better and overall be able to trust them. Due to these circumstances I’m more careful with people I keep around my circle and overall people I communicate with. I don’t give my time or energy to just anyone and watch how someone is as a person before I keep them around. And for others I have fell off with I don’t think there is anything wrong with it. We all grow and can’t keep everyone around. If something is not worth holding on to then it’s best to just let it go at the end of the day.
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